I joined the DyslexiaGames fb page in order to stay up to date on their homeschooling products and because of that, I received info in my news feed about dyslexia stuff.
Why does this matter? We are getting there. Before moving forward though, let me tell you about my middle son A10.
A's story: A tale of frustration...
A10 gets mentioned alot when it comes to certain themes: reluctant reading, reluctant hand writing, very little reading progression, inability to spell, difficult-ness in general, being a "hard" toddler and younger kid, impulsiveness, low early language skills (very early on and not for very long), etc in "those" types of areas. At 10 years old now, he still keeps me on my toes BUT he is really pretty easy. Consistency in parenting, constantly going after the heart issues, and continually allowing there to be Grace and Mercy in all areas with him and schooling has brought us to this point. But man-alive!!! Things could have been so much better, so much sooner! To really understand all this, you need to know about A.
|A when he was 18 months old|
A10 continued in this same manner: super active, super impulsive, super good at physical activity. His language skills were fine (other than the weird start he caught right up and was never behind). A was a super creative, loving, naughty, difficult little kid! I say that with all the love in my heart. To say he was difficult is an understatement. A was busy, impulsive, and... self-centered to a fault.
Many, many, many people told me that they thought he was ADHD. But I knew him and I knew he wasn't.... and really it wouldn't have mattered, I wouldn't have done med's anyway. A is a lot of things but ADD/ADHD is not one of them. A is a boy. A foolish boy. He was extremely impulsive and the punishment was always worth the crime for him. What he needed was good, old fashioned parenting and a Jesus moment (or two)!
When A10 started kindergarten, he did so as a "young" student, as his birthday is in August. I didn't really think much about it; his oldest sister, F16's birthday, is the day before his and she did fine. A10 was very bright, liked learning (though he didn't really like formal education type stuff) and was 5 so why not. He was excited about school and likes to do things, so really, why should I have worried?
"Okay... he's young! He will be ready next year!"
Well, we did the same thing for 1st grade.... and 2nd grade... and 3rd grade.... and most of 4th grade too! I just could not figure it out! What WAS his PROBLEM?????? How is it that he could know so much and nothing at the same time? Meanwhile, his math took off once we started teaching textbooks (which talks to him- no reading involved) and he loved other areas of school.... as long as there was no reading and preferably very little writing involved.
I did everything I thought was right. I separated reading and writing from the other things in his schooling. We did everything verbally. His comprehension was fine. Creativity was fine. Love of learning was fine... although he was not that impressed with anything that was more academic than educational.
I soothed myself with so many "excuses" that seemed legit in order to feel like it was all fine:
- he's young
- he's A
- he's working on so many heart issues
- he really could be in the grade under
- some kids don't get reading until they are older
- he's doing fine in math (more on that later and there are some reasons)
- he just isn't ready.
- he's kind of pouty about it because his sister (who is in the same grade but almost a year older) is advanced.
- he wold just rather be playing.
|Back when school was more boring. You|
can't see A's face but he was NOT HAPPY.
- He didn't try reading/writing on his own.
- Never asked me how to spell things.
- Beyond his name he seemed to have no need for words.
- It took him a lonnnng time to concrete letters and sounds and words as far as a written thing, the other kids never seemed to have that problem.
I tried not to be too stressed out. After-all, there is still time and I just figured that he would eventually get it. In the mean time, everything I chose for him to do was based on him not needing to write a lot or read much. We still read out loud and listened to audio books- which he liked. I just kept plugging along and figured that it would all just fix itself.
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